This is the first post written by my friend (I helped write it too). Motivational Mondays and Fitness Fridays will be published weekly from next week onwards.
Affirmation – emotional support or encouragement.
Sometimes affirming yourself is difficult, as a lot of people are very critical of themselves and sometimes fail to see the positive qualities they possess. For those who think that they are alone in being this way, I’m here to reach out to you and say that you are far from alone. There might be days when your critical nature can really make you depressed. However, as someone who has experienced long-term depression, I would suggest that continuous self-criticism serves no purpose. Often, you see much bigger flaws in yourself than any of your friends do. The cycle of depression will continue endlessly unless you realise that nobody is perfect, and accept that your own imperfections are what makes you perfect.
If you come to the realisation, and understand that you are unique and special, you will look at yourself in a different light, having a more positive outlook on yourself and your surroundings. Slowly and surely you will build self-confidence and you will learn to love yourself so that when the days come when you are feeling down you will be able to reflect the positive qualities that you have. There is no point surrounding yourself with positive people who encourage and support you unless you learn to love yourself too. This can be done by talking to your loved ones about yourself, listing 3 things that you like about yourself every day, being positive, and reading articles about being happy such as http://ow.ly/PLgL307vBf0. Self-Affirmation is very important in becoming happy, and one of the first steps to being proud and self-satisfied (but not in itself enough) is by surrounding yourself with positive people (this also, on average, increases your lifespan). Just remember, you need to be positive too.
I thought that as it is Christmas, a time of joy and happiness, it would be good to write about being positive and euphoric.
I’ll be the first to admit that life can be extremely depressing. However, if you balance out the depression with positivity life can be amazing, and filled with euphoria. It’s quite hard to think positively all the time (it’s easier to think positively at Christmas than if you’re getting a divorce) but I’ve got some tips that can help you out:
- Every morning, write down three things that you are genuinely grateful for. Naturally, when a human being sees another human being that is happier than them or has something they do not, they become jealous. Instead, try to find the things you are grateful for, three things that you have or that you like about yourself. This way, you will stop comparing yourself to others, and focus more on what you have.
- By simply smiling, you can boost your mood for the rest of the day, and it will help keep you positive.
- As I said in an earlier blog, have no regrets or worries. By relaxing, you will feel as if a massive weight has just been taken off your shoulders. I know it is hard to just shrug off worries and regrets, but thinking about them constantly doesn’t help you out in any way.
- Realise that you should just be happy in the present moment. Happiness isn’t a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow that seems far away from the present and will take a long time to reach. Happiness should be about the journey, not the end. If you truly understand this you will have a long-term happiness, as the metaphorical “journey” is a life-long one.
- Find something to look forward to. This increases excitement and euphoria. Please note that you can be happy in the moment and still look forward to something. This is because anxiety doesn’t come from thinking about the future, it comes from trying to control it.
- Treat every day as a new start and a new challenge. Also try new things in the day, to make it feel like a new adventure, such as writing a blog or picking up a hobby. This can be done by finding time for you. A lot of people complain that they don’t have any time, but you only need five minutes a day, and that is possible.
- Finally, help other people. Nothing is more rewarding than helping others. Whether it be donating to charity or volunteering, anything like that will make you all the more positive. By helping others, it makes you feel like you have a purpose, which can increase self-esteem and happiness.
I hope you’ve learned something from these steps. Even if by trying to do these you are only slightly happier, I will take that as a success. So, enjoy your life, round off 2016 on a high note, and most of all, have a merry Christmas.